By: Rick Reeves (U&I For Change; 1993)
Today; We are a Country Torn, whether it be from drugs, racial hate, governmental corruption, or just a plain lack of human compassion for one another, whatever the reasons of today, tomorrow can still be saved. We all are the future, and the hope of a once peaceful nation. So have the coin toss; tee it up and let's ...
Thoughts by: B. Brown
Move forward in a positive, constructive manner to make a difference in the lives of our young people around the world. We still have too many young people that believe that sagging pants is ok, we still have too many young people that believe that being uneducated is ok. I am here to say that neither one of those things is ok!
I have FAITH in our young people and I am going to continue to be a positive and powerful influence on young people and help usher them into a successful adult life!
JOIN ME! ONE LOVE!
This Blog is for both Parents and Children. Our youth of today must be able to effectively articulate and communicate their thoughts, plans, and ideas to others. Parents, we must LOVE, TEACH, and DISCIPLINE our children!!! Actually being parents to the Youth of Today is essential!!!
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Children are responsible for their own behavior!
By: John Rosemond *Family Psychologist - http://www.rosemond.com
(The Atlanta Journal-Constitution; E2/ Sat. Feb. 28, 2009)
One of the defining features of today's parenting mindset is guilt.
Before the psychological parenting revolution of the late 1960's & 1970's, mothers were more immune to guilt.
Back then, when a child behaved badly, the mother made the child feel guilty. These days, when a child behaves badly, the child's mother is likely to experience the guilt. This has happened because today's moms - the primary consumers of parenting information and therefore its primary victims - believe that parenting produces the child.
The only conclusion upheld by common sense: Parenting does not produce the child. Parenting is an influence, and it is certainly prudent for parents to do what they can to maximize positive influence, but in the final analysis, the child produces himself. He takes your influence and he decides what to do with it.
Before, parents understood that they could do only so much. They understood that no matter how "good" their parenting was, their children were still capable on any given day of doing bad things. So when a child misbehaved, they punished him.
Too many of today's parents, in the same circumstances, punish themselves. They search themselves for the answer to "why?" Consequently, their children are not being held fully responsible.
Of late, I've been asking my audiences two questions: > Is parenting more or less stressful, do you think, than it was in the 1950's? > Are today's children more or less happy than were children in the 1950's?
Every audience's answers have been, respectively, more and less.
I propose that much of the stress is because of parents holding themselves responsible for their children's misbehavior. And I propose that much of the unhappiness is because children are not being held responsible for their own behavior.
(The Atlanta Journal-Constitution; E2/ Sat. Feb. 28, 2009)
One of the defining features of today's parenting mindset is guilt.
Before the psychological parenting revolution of the late 1960's & 1970's, mothers were more immune to guilt.
Back then, when a child behaved badly, the mother made the child feel guilty. These days, when a child behaves badly, the child's mother is likely to experience the guilt. This has happened because today's moms - the primary consumers of parenting information and therefore its primary victims - believe that parenting produces the child.
The only conclusion upheld by common sense: Parenting does not produce the child. Parenting is an influence, and it is certainly prudent for parents to do what they can to maximize positive influence, but in the final analysis, the child produces himself. He takes your influence and he decides what to do with it.
Before, parents understood that they could do only so much. They understood that no matter how "good" their parenting was, their children were still capable on any given day of doing bad things. So when a child misbehaved, they punished him.
Too many of today's parents, in the same circumstances, punish themselves. They search themselves for the answer to "why?" Consequently, their children are not being held fully responsible.
Of late, I've been asking my audiences two questions: > Is parenting more or less stressful, do you think, than it was in the 1950's? > Are today's children more or less happy than were children in the 1950's?
Every audience's answers have been, respectively, more and less.
I propose that much of the stress is because of parents holding themselves responsible for their children's misbehavior. And I propose that much of the unhappiness is because children are not being held responsible for their own behavior.
Monday, January 26, 2009
What are you going to do in 2009?
Thoughts By: B. Brown
It’s 2009 and it’s time for your goals and aspirations to manifest into reality!!!
Barack Obama is the 44th President and the 1st African-American President of the United States! It is an exciting time to be an American! We as Americans are embarking on a new adventure and it sure feels great!
I am personally very excited about the history that has been made with Obama leading the U.S. into a new positive direction. I am truly grateful for my parents, grand parents and the rest of the generations before me that paved the way for this great moment to take place. If you go and ask any person white or black that is over fifty (50) years old, the majority of them will tell you that they did not expect to see a black man in the White House in their lifetime. Oh, what a wonderful time it is right now!
A lot of different things have been put out there in regards to Obama being President, but the fact is that he has a tremendous appeal to people all around the world and that his appeal along with his economic and political strategies have a great chance of pulling the U.S. out of one of it’s most challenging economic downturns ever! I believe we as a nation are going to be ok in the near future.
What ever you aspire to be and whatever your goals are, there is no better time than now to actually write them down, visualize them and move forth with action to achieve your goals. Action is the key! It is just like Faith. Faith without action is dead. The time is now for each and every one of us to improve ourselves and make a difference. The time is now for us to take advantage of education and use that education to parlay ourselves into new fields of business and new opportunities. Focusing on your goals everyday and actively working towards them will allow you to have a drive and desire that can be unstoppable and that day will come when you realize that your life has changed and beautiful things are happening to you! Close your eyes for a moment … isn’t that a beautiful vision?
Your goal may be to spend more time with your family --- do it!
Your goal may be to lose weight --- do it!
Your goal may be to get a better paying job --- do it!
Whatever your goals and aspirations --- there’s now better phrase to use than Nike’s awesome slogan --- just do it!!!
“The will to win is not nearly as important as the will to prepare to win.” – Bobby Knight
It’s 2009 and it is truly your time!!!
It’s 2009 and it’s time for your goals and aspirations to manifest into reality!!!
Barack Obama is the 44th President and the 1st African-American President of the United States! It is an exciting time to be an American! We as Americans are embarking on a new adventure and it sure feels great!
I am personally very excited about the history that has been made with Obama leading the U.S. into a new positive direction. I am truly grateful for my parents, grand parents and the rest of the generations before me that paved the way for this great moment to take place. If you go and ask any person white or black that is over fifty (50) years old, the majority of them will tell you that they did not expect to see a black man in the White House in their lifetime. Oh, what a wonderful time it is right now!
A lot of different things have been put out there in regards to Obama being President, but the fact is that he has a tremendous appeal to people all around the world and that his appeal along with his economic and political strategies have a great chance of pulling the U.S. out of one of it’s most challenging economic downturns ever! I believe we as a nation are going to be ok in the near future.
What ever you aspire to be and whatever your goals are, there is no better time than now to actually write them down, visualize them and move forth with action to achieve your goals. Action is the key! It is just like Faith. Faith without action is dead. The time is now for each and every one of us to improve ourselves and make a difference. The time is now for us to take advantage of education and use that education to parlay ourselves into new fields of business and new opportunities. Focusing on your goals everyday and actively working towards them will allow you to have a drive and desire that can be unstoppable and that day will come when you realize that your life has changed and beautiful things are happening to you! Close your eyes for a moment … isn’t that a beautiful vision?
Your goal may be to spend more time with your family --- do it!
Your goal may be to lose weight --- do it!
Your goal may be to get a better paying job --- do it!
Whatever your goals and aspirations --- there’s now better phrase to use than Nike’s awesome slogan --- just do it!!!
“The will to win is not nearly as important as the will to prepare to win.” – Bobby Knight
It’s 2009 and it is truly your time!!!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Saving Our Daughters - A New Book
From: Kim Ellis of KE Consulting's E-Blast
This holiday season, It's Cool To Be Smart will introduce their new book series, called "Saving Our Daughters" From a Man's Point of View and will feature 6 leading African American Men in Film, Television, Sports and Music; one of these men will be T.I. and the organizations sponsor and spokesperson for the past 5 years. It was a very special September 13th weekend at this years' event because of the support from V-103's (103.3 WVEE Atlanta, GA) Producer of The Porsche Foxx Show, Tequilla Whitfield. Tequilla had joined It's Cool To Be Smart and the new book series' efforts to help support and uplift single parent mothers and their daughters in the black community. "I read the first two chapters of Saving Our Daughters and was truly touched by the mother and co-author's quest of overcoming horrific acts in their life", stated Tequilla.
Tequilla and V-103 blessed these two remarkable women with tickets to attend the event for the September 13th weekend along with arranging up an an up/close conversation with T.I., who personally thanked the mother, co-author and writer Karen Watts, for the opportunity to participate in the book to inspire single parent mothers and their daughters.
T.I. has always been in support of single parent mothers and their children with past scholarships and sponsorships for these families to attend recreation centers during the summer and help in college aid.
This holiday season, It's Cool To Be Smart will introduce their new book series, called "Saving Our Daughters" From a Man's Point of View and will feature 6 leading African American Men in Film, Television, Sports and Music; one of these men will be T.I. and the organizations sponsor and spokesperson for the past 5 years. It was a very special September 13th weekend at this years' event because of the support from V-103's (103.3 WVEE Atlanta, GA) Producer of The Porsche Foxx Show, Tequilla Whitfield. Tequilla had joined It's Cool To Be Smart and the new book series' efforts to help support and uplift single parent mothers and their daughters in the black community. "I read the first two chapters of Saving Our Daughters and was truly touched by the mother and co-author's quest of overcoming horrific acts in their life", stated Tequilla.
Tequilla and V-103 blessed these two remarkable women with tickets to attend the event for the September 13th weekend along with arranging up an an up/close conversation with T.I., who personally thanked the mother, co-author and writer Karen Watts, for the opportunity to participate in the book to inspire single parent mothers and their daughters.
T.I. has always been in support of single parent mothers and their children with past scholarships and sponsorships for these families to attend recreation centers during the summer and help in college aid.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Is it a New Day of Hope?
Thoughts By: B. Brown
On November 4, 2008, history was made when the American people elected Barack Obama the 44th President of the United States! We as America are in uncharted waters with our 1st African-American President and a lot of people are concerned about what is going to happen in the near future.
I don't know what is going to happen either, but I know that we could not afford another term with a Republican President in office. For people of color and the working class, it would be terribly bad!
I am thankful for the fact that Obama won and is in position to make positive changes that will not only help african-americans, but all American people. Economically, the working class (middle) has to be in position to earn decent money because they are the ones that spend the most money. Eliminate the working class (middle) and you will only have very, very wealthy people and very, very poor people. That is a scary image and very reminiscent of the slavery era.
One of the most beautiful things about Obama's victory is the fact that parents can now truthfully say that their African-American children can actually become President of the United States if they choose to pursue it.
As a Success Leader, I discuss and share ideas from Success University (the #1 Online Personal Development Company in the World!
http://www.winbush-brown.successuniversity.com) with youth and adults alike, and I am astonished at the fact that a lot of our young people do not realize the depth of what has happened with the election of Obama. Now our young people have the ultimate role model and hopefully they realize that it is ok to be smart, to be well groomed, to wear a suit, to speak correctly & sound intelligent and to pull their pants up! I am looking forward to the tide turning in a positive direction where more young african-american males go to college, trade school and/or technical school and start building a positive reputation which is desperately needed.
I do believe it is a NEW DAY OF HOPE with the election of Obama; and we as parents, mentors, educators, etc. have to make sure that we share our expectations with our children so that they know how we expect them to behave and conduct themselves.
Young people, all your dreams can come true if you are willing to work hard, work smart, sacrifice and never give up!
One Love!
On November 4, 2008, history was made when the American people elected Barack Obama the 44th President of the United States! We as America are in uncharted waters with our 1st African-American President and a lot of people are concerned about what is going to happen in the near future.
I don't know what is going to happen either, but I know that we could not afford another term with a Republican President in office. For people of color and the working class, it would be terribly bad!
I am thankful for the fact that Obama won and is in position to make positive changes that will not only help african-americans, but all American people. Economically, the working class (middle) has to be in position to earn decent money because they are the ones that spend the most money. Eliminate the working class (middle) and you will only have very, very wealthy people and very, very poor people. That is a scary image and very reminiscent of the slavery era.
One of the most beautiful things about Obama's victory is the fact that parents can now truthfully say that their African-American children can actually become President of the United States if they choose to pursue it.
As a Success Leader, I discuss and share ideas from Success University (the #1 Online Personal Development Company in the World!
http://www.winbush-brown.successuniversity.com) with youth and adults alike, and I am astonished at the fact that a lot of our young people do not realize the depth of what has happened with the election of Obama. Now our young people have the ultimate role model and hopefully they realize that it is ok to be smart, to be well groomed, to wear a suit, to speak correctly & sound intelligent and to pull their pants up! I am looking forward to the tide turning in a positive direction where more young african-american males go to college, trade school and/or technical school and start building a positive reputation which is desperately needed.
I do believe it is a NEW DAY OF HOPE with the election of Obama; and we as parents, mentors, educators, etc. have to make sure that we share our expectations with our children so that they know how we expect them to behave and conduct themselves.
Young people, all your dreams can come true if you are willing to work hard, work smart, sacrifice and never give up!
One Love!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Great statement for you and your children!!!
"Rosa [Parks] sat so Martin [Luther King, Jr.] could walk ... Martin walked so [Barack] Obama could run ... Obama is running so our kids can fly! Do not dare let his dream die! VOTE!!!"
--- Unknown Author
B. Brown's Thoughts: This statement is very profound and powerful because it clearly says that our predecessors have sacrificed for us, and each generation must take the next step and continue to move forward.
My parents were a part of the Civil Rights movement and heavily involved in the Student Movement of the 1960's and I take my voting rights very seriously. Black people officially received the right to vote in 1965. That's not that long ago. We must all excercise our right to vote and put the proper people in office and then hold them accountable.
Spike Lee's Classic Movie sums it up for me, Do the Right Thing!
One Love!
--- Unknown Author
B. Brown's Thoughts: This statement is very profound and powerful because it clearly says that our predecessors have sacrificed for us, and each generation must take the next step and continue to move forward.
My parents were a part of the Civil Rights movement and heavily involved in the Student Movement of the 1960's and I take my voting rights very seriously. Black people officially received the right to vote in 1965. That's not that long ago. We must all excercise our right to vote and put the proper people in office and then hold them accountable.
Spike Lee's Classic Movie sums it up for me, Do the Right Thing!
One Love!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
It's Election time, have you spoken to your child or children?
By: B. Brown
Obama or McCain? Is it really a question who should be our next President of the United States of America? To me no, but amazingly enough there are people out there that actually support McCain for some reason. Other than being racist and/or extremely wealthy, I honestly do not know how anyone could seriously vote for McCain. I am an Obama supporter and I have voted already! Either way, we are in America and we all have a choice to make by or on November 4, 2008. God Bless America!
Some parents may believe that discussing politics with their children is not important, but I believe it is because you never know what is going to spark an interest in them. I definitely believe parents should discuss this particular Presidential Election with their children because we are on the verge of one of the most historic moments in political history! Obama is the 1st African-American to win a Major Party's Nomination for President and actually is ahead in the polls right now. He has dominated the debates between he and McCain, and Obama is poised to be elected the New President of the United States on November 4, 2008.
I urge everyone 18 years of age and older to get out and vote and make a difference! Obama needs your vote to ensure history being made! Be a part of history and vote to make sure it becomes a reality! Obama has not won yet, but we all can do our part to help him become our New President of the United States!
Parents, speak to your children and share this historic moment with them!
One Love!
Obama or McCain? Is it really a question who should be our next President of the United States of America? To me no, but amazingly enough there are people out there that actually support McCain for some reason. Other than being racist and/or extremely wealthy, I honestly do not know how anyone could seriously vote for McCain. I am an Obama supporter and I have voted already! Either way, we are in America and we all have a choice to make by or on November 4, 2008. God Bless America!
Some parents may believe that discussing politics with their children is not important, but I believe it is because you never know what is going to spark an interest in them. I definitely believe parents should discuss this particular Presidential Election with their children because we are on the verge of one of the most historic moments in political history! Obama is the 1st African-American to win a Major Party's Nomination for President and actually is ahead in the polls right now. He has dominated the debates between he and McCain, and Obama is poised to be elected the New President of the United States on November 4, 2008.
I urge everyone 18 years of age and older to get out and vote and make a difference! Obama needs your vote to ensure history being made! Be a part of history and vote to make sure it becomes a reality! Obama has not won yet, but we all can do our part to help him become our New President of the United States!
Parents, speak to your children and share this historic moment with them!
One Love!
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